So here I am, it’s Thursday
morning, and I’m packed, ready to go to Thailand, Siam, as my partner insists
on suggesting.
`As a matter of interest’, I
ask him, `when did Siam become
Thailand? Do you know who changed it, and why?’
He didn’t know: I said I’d
look it up. I booted up the laptop to go
googling, only to become distracted by a message from my daughter, K, who is in
Thailand already, and meeting me tomorrow from the plane.
`Mum’, she warns, `there is a
convoy of famers on their way to the airport.’
I think she is going to tell
me a joke.
`They don’t seem to be
threatening anyone’, she goes on. `I’ll let you know when we’re neara.’
Aha. I realise that she is
serious. This is to do with the
political unrest that is bubbling in Thailand because many of the country’s
residents would like to overthrow the Prime Minister. Not a joke at all. She goes on to tell me some of the mechanics
of what might be happening, and then offers me huge reassurance.
`I have Reiki’ed your
journey. And mine.’
I smile. Then respond.
`Great. As it happens, I
always travel in a purple light. I will
send some light pyramids your way as well.’
I read out the exchange to my
husband, who looks at me funny. Reiki
and light pyramids don’t figure hugely in his map. He is more likely to be
wondering whether I am completely losing it, as I close down the computer and
jam my sandals into the bottom compartment of my new rucksack (K has my old
one) and give a satisfied `yay’ as I find more straps to tighten up the whole
caboodle.
I have no idea, of course,
what is really in his head: I am not a mind reader.
`Be careful’, he says. `Come home safely.’
Our intentions match.
Strap tightening complete, we
set off to the train station, say our goodbyes. We don’t linger on this, it
just needs to be done. Then I am on my
way, First Class, comfortable, excited, and open to the next experience.
I get to London and take the
tube to Paddington. A blind man gets on
at one of the stations, I notice him make his way through a busy carriage with
the aid of a white stick, feeling for space where others might look,
negotiating the terrain from a different vantage to most of the rest of the
carriage occupants, asking for help, listening for answers. Someone stands up to
give him a seat, puts their hand upon his arm, helps him into position.
At Paddington, I next take
the train to Heathrow, the Express. First Class again, whoop whoop. By dint of holding this honour, an indulgence
I made because it was on special offer, I get a free copy of Red magazine, and
see that it has a feature on the inimitable Germaine Greer.
Germaine Greer, an awesome woman. I remember devouring her seminal work The
Female Eunuch, when it was first published. She issued intelligent challenges regarding the mapping out of gender roles and relations, claiming new territory for women.
For today, I enjoy a current quote which speaks to me: `a grown woman should
not have to masquerade as a girl in order to remain in the land of the living’
(The Change). Yes. The route map of ageing – how different
it seems for men and women, at least in the tableau presented to us by
mainstream and commercial culture.
So by the time I am on board
my plane, blanket round my ankles, neck pillow in place – oh yes, I do those
comfort things – I have much to ruminate on when it comes to The Map is not the
Territory, that very well- known quote from the philosopher and scientist
Alfred Korzybski. The full quote is that
`The Map is not the
Territory. The only usefulness of a map depends on similarity of structure
between the empirical world and the map’ (1933, Science and Sanity.)
When our internal maps are no longer useful,
when the similarity of structure is eroded or inaccurate, we can change
them. Equally, when we don’t have the
capacity or will to understand each other’s maps, or when we try and impose our
own maps, relating interpersonally can be limited. While, conversely, when we
realise that our maps vary, and strive to understand our own maps and those of
others, then we can proceed in a much more open and constructive manner.
By the way, Siam became
Thailand initially in 1939, and definitively in 1949. The word Thai means `free’, and was
deliberately chosen to establish a new, independent identity. Apparently, the indigenous population did not
want their territory colonised to fit on someone else’s map.
Fancy that.
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